I have a distinct memory of going to a restaurant with my folks when I was a kid. It was one of the better restaurants in the area I grew up in, rural New Jersey, on the border of Pennsylvania. The restaurant was called The Forager House. The chef’s name was Dick Barrows. It was fine dining, white tablecloth, the whole thing. I was already enamored with cooking at that point. I was 12 or 13 years old. The maître d’ took an interest in me because I was talking to him about food in a way most 12 or 13 year olds usually don’t. At the end of the meal, I asked if I could go back into the kitchen and meet the chefs. He said yes, of course, and took me back. It was the early ’80s. All I remember was lots of hair in the kitchen, men with beards and long hair.
I also remember going to fine dining restaurants with my parents or just my father. One in Princeton, New Jersey, for my 12th or 13th birthday. I wasn’t wearing a sport coat, and they made me put one on to eat there. I remember feeling fancy and enjoying the meal. At one of those places, I ate oysters for the first time, an Oysters Rockefeller. It came out on a bowl of rock salt, and I thought, ‘Oh my God, this is so fancy.’ I was a kid, but I loved it.
I also have tons of memories of sitting in my grandmother’s kitchen having her pasta, chowder, and clam cakes. Those meals made a huge impact on me as a kid and made me fall in love with that type of cooking. My New York Italian family had Sunday dinners that started at noon with charcuterie and cheese, then salad, pasta, a roast, then fruit and nuts. The table would be cleared, the adults would play poker, and dinner would end around 8 or 9 at night. You’d have spent the whole day at the table. That really drew me to the kitchen.