I don’t really hold onto memories of eating food so much, but I do hold onto memories of cooking food. I have this one memory from the pandemic, before we were a pop-up, before we knew that we were going to do something like HAGS. We were down in Georgia visiting my family, and it was Mother’s Day, and I made my mom this recipe for this old-fashioned cream pie, that’s a family recipe. And this is not a family of cooks, so there are very few family recipes! I had never made this recipe before, but my mom had made it, it was the one thing that I knew she felt good about. My parents and I have had a complicated relationship, and it was an incredible experience to get to cook this pie for her and eat it with her on Mother’s Day, at the very start of the pandemic.
Also, the first time I ever ate at a MICHELIN-starred restaurant was my 24th birthday, and I traveled to New York to eat at Daniel. They had three stars at the time, and I knew nothing about anything, and I didn’t know what that meant, but my partner found this restaurant on the internet. Like, this is a famous restaurant in New York City, we should go eat there. We asked them to prepare a vegan tasting menu. As a vegan at the time, I didn’t know that that was an unusual request. I showed up in a dress, full face of makeup, and this was 2011, and they treated me so well, they treated me so kindly and compassionately, and they cooked us this vegan tasting menu. We were these two young, 20-something-year-old, queer, trans kids that had never experienced fine dining before, and they really made us feel like we were superstars. I remember dishes from them, still—there was this trio of ratatouille bites, and it was the first time I ate eggplant where I was like, holy shit, this is amazing. I was working at a vegan cafe at the time, pressing paninis and stuff like that. I was just flabbergasted by the concepts and the textures and flavors, but also the hospitality.